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2/17/2020 0 Comments The Path of EmpathyBy Jessica Wilkerson, MA, LMFT
So much of the inner pain that plagues us is actually a sense of guilt and shame for something we've done, said, or a promise made and not kept. Our hearts go around and around, reminding us of the shameful thing in an effort to keep us from repeating the behavior. Instead of walking towards good things because they are healthy for us and will make us happy, we walk toward the good things in an effort to avoid the repeated experience of guilt and shame. But in doing so, we bring that guilt along with us. We are going toward positive things while carrying the weight of our wrongdoings, and when we arrive at the destination it seems to pale in comparison with our expectations or with the way others are experiencing it. We wonder, "Why is this less bright? Why is it less joyful? Why can't I enjoy myself the way everyone else is enjoying themselves?" And you're disappointed. And frustrated. And feel hopeless. It's not fair.
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By Jessica Wilkerson, MA, LMFT
There's a piece in all of us that can feel disappointed. That piece feels disappointed in ourselves - disappointed for many different reasons, but they all add up to a sense that you did or you are something wrong or flawed, and that sense of wrongness becomes this golden thread weaving it's way through the rest of your experiences or self-concept. You might be able to truly be happy at times or genuinely be proud of yourself, but then there are other times where that disspointed feeling says, "yeah, but..." and it finds the way you could have been better. It discredits your joy. 2/10/2020 0 Comments Blog coming soon!Inspired Life Counseling is primarily a place where people show up for one-on-one conversations to heal their hearts, lives, and relationships. However, sometimes a short "conversation" between an author and a reader can launch a person's healing journey. In this blog space we hope to provide unique content about our perspectives on various life events and issues.
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VISION: Creating a new kind of therapy experience in the Chico and Redding areas in which therapists have smaller caseloads, giving them the flexibility to spend more time with clients as needed - longer sessions, phone calls, client-centered advocacy. Creating a space in our community where clients can go between sessions to sit, linger, and re-center themselves when they're having difficult days. A place to belong while they heal their hearts and relationships. A therapy office that embodies the unconditional love of Christ, no matter what a person's gender identity, romantic disposition, or previous life hardships, experiences, or actions might have been. To be a safe place.
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Inspired Life Counseling is owned and directed by Jessica Darling, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #104464.
Office Hours: By Appointment Contact us!
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