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5/25/2021 0 Comments May 25th, 2021Sometimes I think we let the word no be our bully.
Somewhere along the line we learned that there would be negative consequences if we wielded the power of no. That it’s a bad word, selfish. That we’re bad, selfish people if we don’t use no as sparingly as possible. That’s simply not true. We are not called to sacrifice ourselves to avoid feeling bad due to each person’s ever changing definition of an adverb/noun. Some people think no keeps them safe from over-committing or accidentally finding themselves in a pickle from saying yes too freely. Others think if they say no then the person who’s asking for a favor will be hurt or offended, and that their pain is greater suffering and therefore should be avoided. Either way, the word no has more power than it should. This is where healthy boundaries come into effect.
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5/9/2021 0 Comments Words Have Powerby Jessica Wilkerson, LMFT
Have you ever found yourself mumbling under your breath, “get it together, man! What’s wrong with you?” or “Of course you didn’t get that good thing, your life stinks.” It’s human nature to try to use an inner voice to encourage ourselves to do better or to coach ourselves not to experience upset. Somewhere along the way some of us learned that by admonishing ourselves it softens the blow of disappointment, frustration, or feelings of powerlessness. There’s a false sense of empowerment that comes from negative or chastising inner dialogue, and it feels like those statements keep us on our feet and alert. Without the inner coach saying, “There’s no such thing as second place!” or “You already know you’re unlovable, don’t bother putting yourself out there.” We can feel like we would accidentally make fools of ourselves. Our perception is that the way we are talking to ourselves is keeping us safe. |
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VISION: Creating a new kind of therapy experience in the Chico and Redding areas in which therapists have smaller caseloads, giving them the flexibility to spend more time with clients as needed - longer sessions, phone calls, client-centered advocacy. Creating a space in our community where clients can go between sessions to sit, linger, and re-center themselves when they're having difficult days. A place to belong while they heal their hearts and relationships. A therapy office that embodies the unconditional love of Christ, no matter what a person's gender identity, romantic disposition, or previous life hardships, experiences, or actions might have been. To be a safe place.
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