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12/29/2025 0 Comments

The Letdown After the Big Plan: What Happens When the Excitement is Over

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The post-achievement crash is a tough topic to talk about because it catches us so off-guard. You've just accomplished something meaningful, maybe you graduated, got married, finished a big project, or survived a challenging life transition, and instead of feeling triumphant, you feel... empty. Deflated. Like the air has been let out of your balloon.

As a therapist, I see this pattern constantly in my office. Clients come in confused and sometimes ashamed, wondering what's wrong with them that they can't just enjoy their success. "I should be happy," they tell me. "I worked so hard for this, so why do I feel so low?"
Let me start by saying this: there is nothing wrong with you. What you're experiencing is not only normal but actually shows your nervous system is working exactly as it should.

Your Brain on Achievement: The Neuroscience of Letdown

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12/22/2025 0 Comments

Emotions Series Part 1: What's the Difference Between Feeling and Showing an Emotion?

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Emotions can feel like a mystery, even to those of us who work with them every day. You might notice your heart racing during a difficult conversation, but your face remains completely neutral. Or maybe you've had the experience of someone asking "Are you okay?" when you thought you were hiding your frustration perfectly well. This disconnect between what we feel inside and what others see on the outside is more common than you might think, and it's rooted in fascinating neuroscience.

As a therapist, I see this emotional complexity play out in my office daily. The difference between feeling an emotion and showing an emotion shapes how we connect with others, how we heal, and how we navigate our relationships. That's why I'm excited to start this four-part series exploring the intricate world of emotions and expression.

The Neuroscience Behind Feeling vs. Showing

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12/17/2025 0 Comments

Part-Time AMFT Jobs: Your Complete Guide to Finding Flexible Therapy Work in 2026

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Finding meaningful part-time work as an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist can feel overwhelming. I get it: you're trying to balance your need for flexibility with your desire to do impactful work, all while navigating licensing requirements and building your clinical hours. The job market has changed dramatically, especially post-pandemic, and figuring out where you fit can be tough.

As someone who's worked in this field for years and employs associate therapists, I've watched countless AMFTs struggle to find positions that honor both their professional goals and their personal needs. The good news? The landscape for part-time therapy work has never been more promising. Let me walk you through what I've learned about finding flexible, meaningful positions in 2026.

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12/15/2025 0 Comments

Adolescence and Identity Formation: Why Teens Need Space to Explore and Mess Up

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Watching teenagers navigate identity formation can feel terrifying for parents. I see it in my office every day, parents who are genuinely confused and scared when their previously compliant child suddenly dyes their hair purple, starts hanging out with new friends, or announces they're questioning everything they once believed. It's natural to want to pull them back, to keep them safe, to guide every step. But here's what I've learned in my years as a therapist: healthy adolescent development actually requires space for exploration and, yes, making mistakes.

As someone who works extensively with teens and families, I want to share why this messy, sometimes chaotic process isn't just normal: it's absolutely necessary for your teenager to become a healthy, well-adjusted adult.

The Adolescent Brain: A Work in Progress

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12/8/2025 0 Comments

A How-To Guide if Your Loved One Is in the Hospital for Long-Term Care

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Long-term hospitalization is one of those life experiences that nobody prepares you for. As a therapist who has walked alongside families through these challenging seasons, I've witnessed firsthand how overwhelming it can feel when someone you love requires extended medical care. The uncertainty, the disrupted routines, the financial stress, the emotional roller coaster, it's a lot to navigate, and it's completely normal to feel lost.

In my practice, I've learned that families often focus so intensely on the medical aspects of their loved one's care that they forget to tend to their own emotional well-being and the relationship dynamics that inevitably shift during these times. Today, I want to share what I've discovered about supporting both your loved one and yourself through this journey, drawing from attachment theory, trauma-informed care, and the wisdom of caring for the caregiver.

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12/1/2025 0 Comments

Self-Care or Avoidance? Why Isolation Isn't Always Healing (Especially for Trauma Survivors)

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Isolation versus self-care, it's one of the trickiest distinctions I encounter in my practice. As a therapist, I've sat across from countless trauma survivors who genuinely believe they're taking care of themselves by pulling away from others. And I get it. After experiencing betrayal, abuse, or overwhelming loss, the world can feel unsafe. People can feel unsafe. So naturally, we retreat.

But here's what I've learned in my years of practice: there's a profound difference between the solitude that heals and the isolation that keeps us stuck. And for trauma survivors especially, this distinction can mean the difference between recovery and remaining trapped in cycles of pain.

When "Self-Care" Becomes Self-Sabotage

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The Letdown After the Big Plan: What Happens When the Excitement is Over

Emotions Series Part 1: What's the Difference Between Feeling and Showing an Emotion?

Part-Time AMFT Jobs: Your Complete Guide to Finding Flexible Therapy Work in 2026

Adolescence and Identity Formation: Why Teens Need Space to Explore and Mess Up

A How-To Guide if Your Loved One Is in the Hospital for Long-Term Care

Self-Care or Avoidance? Why Isolation Isn't Always Healing (Especially for Trauma Survivors)

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