Category: Anxiety

10/9/2025 0 Comments

Tips to Move Toward Secure Attachment: Practical Strategies

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Changing your attachment style as an adult is challenging work. I won't sugarcoat that. The patterns we developed in childhood run deep, and they've been our go-to strategies for navigating relationships for years, maybe decades. But here's what I want you to know: it's absolutely possible to move toward more secure attachment, no matter where you're starting from.
Whether you tend toward anxious attachment (constantly seeking reassurance), avoidant attachment (keeping people at arm's length), or disorganized attachment (swinging between the two), you can develop the skills that securely attached people seem to naturally have. It just takes intentional practice and a lot of self-compassion along the way.

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8/18/2025 0 Comments

Reframing Stress with a Smile: How Humor Changes Your Perspective

Stress is tough. I get it. Whether it's work deadlines, family drama, or that pile of laundry that seems to multiply when you're not looking, life has a way of throwing curveballs that can leave us feeling overwhelmed and defeated.

But here's something that might surprise you: one of the most powerful tools for managing stress isn't found in a prescription bottle or a meditation app. It's something you already have – your ability to laugh.

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8/4/2025 0 Comments

Does Journaling Actually Help With Anxiety?

Anxiety is tough. Really tough. If you're reading this, chances are you've felt that familiar tightness in your chest, the racing thoughts that won't quit, or that constant feeling like you're waiting for the other shoe to drop. You might have heard people suggest journaling as a way to help with anxiety, but you're probably wondering: does it actually work, or is it just another feel-good suggestion that doesn't really make a difference?

Here's the thing – journaling does help with anxiety, and there's solid science behind why it works. As a therapist, I've seen it make a real difference for my clients, and the research backs up what we see in therapy rooms every day.

What's Actually Happening in Your Brain When You Journal

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7/28/2025 0 Comments

Common Mistakes in Love: When Your First Big Relationship Happens in Your Thirties or Forties

Let's talk about something that might feel a little awkward to admit: having your first serious relationship in your thirties or forties. While society often assumes everyone has their romantic "training wheels" phase in their teens and twenties, life doesn't always follow that script. Maybe you were focused on career, dealing with family obligations, working through personal challenges, or simply hadn't met the right person yet.

Here's the thing though – when love finally shows up later in life, it can feel both exhilarating and terrifying. Without those earlier relationship experiences that typically teach us the ropes, many people find themselves making mistakes that feel surprisingly familiar to what teenagers do. The difference? The stakes feel much higher, and there's often less patience for trial and error.

The Timeline Trap: When "Running Out of Time" Drives Your Decisions

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6/23/2025 0 Comments

Micro-Moments for Self-Care: Bite-Sized Calming Practices Teens Can Actually Use

Let's be real - telling a stressed teen to meditate for 30 minutes or do an hour of yoga isn't exactly realistic. Between homework, social drama, extracurriculars, and that constant buzz of anxiety many teens carry, finding chunks of time for self-care can feel impossible. But here's the thing: you don't need hours to take care of yourself. Sometimes, all you need is a moment.

Micro-moments are brief, intentional pauses throughout your day: ranging from just a few seconds to a few minutes: where you deliberately stop and care for yourself. They're designed to fit seamlessly into even the most chaotic schedules, making them perfect for teens juggling a million different things.

Why Your Teen Brain Loves Micro-Moments

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6/16/2025 0 Comments

How to Recognize and Respond to Subtle Trauma Triggers in Friendships

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Trauma triggers in friendships are a tough topic to talk about. They're often invisible, unexpected, and can leave both you and your friend feeling confused or hurt. As a therapist who works with teens regularly, I've seen how trauma can show up in both teen and adult friendships in ways that might surprise you.

It might be natural to think that trauma only affects someone during big, obvious moments. But that's not always the case. Trauma triggers can be incredibly subtle – a certain tone of voice, being left on read, or even a friend canceling plans last minute. Understanding these triggers isn't about walking on eggshells around your friends. It's about building deeper, more supportive relationships.

What Are Subtle Trauma Triggers in Friendships?

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3/15/2025 0 Comments

Overly Independent in Love: Why Walls Don't Actually Protect Your Heart

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Being overly independent in love is a tough topic to talk about. It sounds like a contradiction, right? How can being strong and self-reliant be a problem in relationships? But here's the thing, when independence becomes a fortress that keeps everyone out, it stops protecting your heart and starts imprisoning it instead.

I've worked with countless clients who've built these emotional walls thinking they were being smart. They've been hurt before, so they figure if they don't need anyone, they can't be disappointed. If they handle everything themselves, they won't be let down. But what they discover is that walls designed to keep pain out also keep love from getting in.

What Does Being Overly Independent Actually Look Like?

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11/4/2023 0 Comments

How to Leave Work Stress at the Office (So It Doesn't Mess with Family Time)

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We've all been there. You walk through the front door after a long day, and before you can even say hello to your family, your mind is still spinning with deadlines, difficult conversations, and tomorrow's to-do list. Your partner asks how your day was, and instead of connecting, you find yourself venting about workplace drama or stressing about projects that aren't even due until next week.

If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Work stress bleeding into family time is one of the most common challenges I see in my practice. The good news? With some intentional strategies, you can create real boundaries between your work life and home life.

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9/20/2023 0 Comments

How to Overcome Fear When Life Feels Like It's Falling Apart (And Actually Come Out Stronger)

When everything in your life feels like it's crumbling, fear becomes this overwhelming presence that seems to take over everything. I get it – that feeling when you wake up with your heart racing, when every decision feels impossible, when you're not even sure which way is up anymore.

Here's what I want you to know: this scary, falling-apart feeling? It's actually information. And more importantly, it can become the foundation for building something stronger than what you had before.

Your Fear Is Trying to Protect You (But It's Overreacting)

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8/18/2023 0 Comments

Multiple Emotions all at Once!

By Lauren Heinrich

Change is a part of life. Sometimes it feels good, like getting a promotion. Sometimes it hurts, like having to end a relationship. We tend to categorize our transitions as “good” or “bad” and expect the emotions we feel to match. It can really be confusing if our feelings don’t match what we expect.

Let’s take starting a family as an example. Having your first child is supposed to be a magical, joyous experience. What are new parents supposed to do if they feel mixed emotions about having a child? It doesn’t feel right to admit to being upset that they won’t have the same amount of freedom as they did before their first kid. Or let’s consider the mixed feelings that might come with taking a promotion at work. Who wouldn’t be excited about a pay raise? No one wants to admit they feel anxious about the new responsibilities, or how their relationships with their old coworkers will change.

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7/22/2023 0 Comments

Why Does Talking About it Help?

by Emily Emmerman, MSW, ASW

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People come to therapy for a variety of reasons - to talk about and processes traumatic events, to better understand themselves and the way they process the world, to learn new skills to be more emotionally flexible, and even to just vent about life and get some clarification. No matter which way you spin it, you come to therapy to process, and processing means talking. But what happens when we feel like talking about the past might open up Pandoras Box?

All too often I have clients come to their session who say something along the lines of, "I want to feel better, but talking about what happened won't fix it, so I don't want to talk about it."

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3/14/2023 0 Comments

Helping our Children Handle Stress & Anxiety

by Jessica Darling Wilkerson, LMFT

Anxiety in children can often take on the characteristics of other disorders and can be “misdiagnosed” by the people in the child’s life: parents, family members, teachers, etc. This is because children don’t have the ability to conceptualize and articulate what’s going on intrapsychically for themselves. A child identifies, “I don’t feel good.” They don’t identify the sense of foreboding, or feeling of “waiting for the other shoe to drop.” They can’t figure out why they feel this way, but they want the feeling to stop and they’ll do anything to make that happen.

To stop the anxiety they might refuse to participate in an activity. They could seem keyed-up or restless. They might isolate themselves and fight their parent tooth and nail to keep from engaging in whatever the parent wants them to do (go to school, do homework, get dressed, leave the house, etc). They might create little rituals that seem like OCD.

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1/2/2023 0 Comments

Cutting, burning, self harm... what is it all about?

by Lauren Heinrich, AMFT

Cutting is a sign of anxiety, not just thoughts of suicide.

Self-harm is a scary topic. It’s not a common point of conversation, and is often misunderstood.
It might be natural to think that a person hurting themselves in such an extreme way must be
contemplating suicide, but that is not always the case. It is hard to think that a person can be in
so much emotional pain that they want to harm themselves, but it happens more often than we
think.

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12/12/2022 0 Comments

How To Let It Be: Even the “Bad” Stuff.

By Joe Acciaioli, LCSW

Mindfulness vs. Worry: How to let it be... even the “bad” stuff.

A good short definition of mindfulness is: nonjudgmental noticing of our thoughts, feelings, and
body sensations in this present moment. When I share this definition with my clients, the word
they almost always get hung up on is “nonjudgmental.” How on earth are we supposed to not
judge as BAD the challenges we face? “My spouse is really sick.” “I let my child down again.”
“That plumbing repair is going to be expensive.” These are not pleasant thoughts. We do not
want them. And this is where the work of mindfulness comes into play. To say to yourself, in
those tough moments, “I can just let this thought be as it is, without judgment”--that is not easy
to do!

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12/5/2022 0 Comments

Boost Your Confidence in One Easy Mindshift

By Dan Katz, LCSW

So, what are you going to do............
Get up and get some exercise, or grab the remote and head for the couch?

We've all asked ourselves this question lots of times. If you're one of the people that usually gets up and gets going, that's great for your physical health, as well as for your mental health. If you're one of the people that too often chooses the couch, I've got some interesting information for you.

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11/22/2021 0 Comments

A Thankful Heart Can Be Harder Said Than Done

by Jessica Wilkerson, LMFT 104464

Studies have shown that the main driver toward joy is gratitude. In surveying people who describe themselves as happy these studies also see a correlation with thankfulness. But when it feels like life has been throwing you curveballs and like you're out of alignment with where you want to be in life right now, finding that grateful heart can feel like looking for a needle in a haystack and gratitude feels like a generic cliche.

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3/16/2021 0 Comments

Fighting the Good Fight Against Daily Stress

by Jessica Wilkerson, MA, LMFT

It has officially been a year since our world turned upside down with the onset of the Covid-19 pandemic. Layoffs, reduced hours at work, working from home, masks, illness, loss of friends and loved ones, and the constant reminders of it all over the news and social media. Even if you haven’t suffered directly from the illness, you’ve been affected by it in multiple ways. It feels as though everyone is working overtime with higher expectations of themselves and it’s wearing us thin.

Anxiety, stress, fatigue, and burnout affect the ways we interact with others and with our inner selves. The way we beat ourselves up for not being able to navigate life as effectively as we once did is truly toxic. We hold ourselves to the same standards as we’ve always been able to accomplish, while we're living in a world that has shifted and changed. Somewhere along the way many people came to the conclusion that inner negativity is a good motivator to achieve their goals, and if they can whip themselves into shape then they’ll be able to achieve their dreams.

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2/10/2021 0 Comments

College Students and Counseling Therapy

By Jeremy Gregory, MSW, ASW

College Students. What's up with online therapy? Is it like coaching? Is it like venting to someone? Are you going to make me cry? How would I even know if I need a therapist? Maybe I'm just stressed because college is stressful?

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Tips to Move Toward Secure Attachment: Practical Strategies

Reframing Stress with a Smile: How Humor Changes Your Perspective

Does Journaling Actually Help With Anxiety?

Common Mistakes in Love: When Your First Big Relationship Happens in Your Thirties or Forties

Micro-Moments for Self-Care: Bite-Sized Calming Practices Teens Can Actually Use

How to Recognize and Respond to Subtle Trauma Triggers in Friendships

Overly Independent in Love: Why Walls Don't Actually Protect Your Heart

How to Leave Work Stress at the Office (So It Doesn't Mess with Family Time)

How to Overcome Fear When Life Feels Like It's Falling Apart (And Actually Come Out Stronger)

Multiple Emotions all at Once!

Why Does Talking About it Help?

Helping our Children Handle Stress & Anxiety

Cutting, burning, self harm... what is it all about?

How To Let It Be: Even the “Bad” Stuff.

Boost Your Confidence in One Easy Mindshift

A Thankful Heart Can Be Harder Said Than Done

Fighting the Good Fight Against Daily Stress

College Students and Counseling Therapy

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