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12/8/2025 0 Comments

A How-To Guide if Your Loved One Is in the Hospital for Long-Term Care

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Long-term hospitalization is one of those life experiences that nobody prepares you for. As a therapist who has walked alongside families through these challenging seasons, I've witnessed firsthand how overwhelming it can feel when someone you love requires extended medical care. The uncertainty, the disrupted routines, the financial stress, the emotional roller coaster, it's a lot to navigate, and it's completely normal to feel lost.

In my practice, I've learned that families often focus so intensely on the medical aspects of their loved one's care that they forget to tend to their own emotional well-being and the relationship dynamics that inevitably shift during these times. Today, I want to share what I've discovered about supporting both your loved one and yourself through this journey, drawing from attachment theory, trauma-informed care, and the wisdom of caring for the caregiver.

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7/28/2025 0 Comments

Common Mistakes in Love: When Your First Big Relationship Happens in Your Thirties or Forties

Let's talk about something that might feel a little awkward to admit: having your first serious relationship in your thirties or forties. While society often assumes everyone has their romantic "training wheels" phase in their teens and twenties, life doesn't always follow that script. Maybe you were focused on career, dealing with family obligations, working through personal challenges, or simply hadn't met the right person yet.

Here's the thing though – when love finally shows up later in life, it can feel both exhilarating and terrifying. Without those earlier relationship experiences that typically teach us the ropes, many people find themselves making mistakes that feel surprisingly familiar to what teenagers do. The difference? The stakes feel much higher, and there's often less patience for trial and error.

The Timeline Trap: When "Running Out of Time" Drives Your Decisions

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2/2/2025 0 Comments

How Bilateral Stimulation Reprocesses Traumatic Memories: The Neuroscience Behind EMDR

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Let's be honest: trauma is a tough topic to talk about. But understanding how our brains process traumatic memories can actually be incredibly empowering. And when it comes to healing from trauma, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) has become one of the most fascinating and effective treatments we have.

As a therapist, I've watched EMDR work what seems like magic in the therapy room. But there's nothing magical about it: it's pure neuroscience. The secret lies in something called bilateral stimulation, and what it does to our brains is pretty remarkable.

What Actually Happens During Bilateral Stimulation?

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12/23/2024 0 Comments

Stop Wasting Time on Surface Arguments: Try These 7 EFT Techniques for Deeper Connection

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You know that feeling when you and your partner are arguing about who forgot to take out the trash... again? But fifteen minutes in, you realize you're not really fighting about garbage at all. You're fighting about feeling unheard, unappreciated, or disconnected. Sound familiar?

Here's the thing: most relationship arguments aren't actually about the surface issue that started them. As a therapist, I see this pattern constantly. Couples get stuck in these endless loops, rehashing the same complaints without ever addressing what's really going on underneath.

That's where Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) comes in. EFT doesn't focus on teaching better communication skills or problem-solving techniques. Instead, it helps couples understand the deeper emotional needs and attachment fears driving their conflicts. When we address those underlying feelings, the surface arguments often resolve themselves.

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12/10/2024 0 Comments

How Teen Boys Can Stand Up to Bullies by Setting Healthy Boundaries

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Bullying is a tough reality that way too many teen boys face. Whether it's happening in hallways, locker rooms, or online, dealing with bullies can feel overwhelming and confusing. But here's the thing – you have more power than you might realize.

Standing up to bullies isn't about getting into fights or being the toughest guy around. It's actually about something much smarter: setting healthy boundaries. And trust me, learning this skill now will serve you well for the rest of your life.

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9/20/2023 0 Comments

How to Overcome Fear When Life Feels Like It's Falling Apart (And Actually Come Out Stronger)

When everything in your life feels like it's crumbling, fear becomes this overwhelming presence that seems to take over everything. I get it – that feeling when you wake up with your heart racing, when every decision feels impossible, when you're not even sure which way is up anymore.

Here's what I want you to know: this scary, falling-apart feeling? It's actually information. And more importantly, it can become the foundation for building something stronger than what you had before.

Your Fear Is Trying to Protect You (But It's Overreacting)

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3/16/2020 1 Comment

Mental Health During COVID-19

By Jessica Wilkerson, LMFT

So many people are feeling helpless and scared right now. They might still be getting up and going to work, they may be at home social distancing themselves, and they could also be trying to use the time to improve their social lives by having small get-togethers and "taking the risk" (that no one will get someone else infected). Regardless, there's still this undercurrent of worry.

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A How-To Guide if Your Loved One Is in the Hospital for Long-Term Care

Common Mistakes in Love: When Your First Big Relationship Happens in Your Thirties or Forties

How Bilateral Stimulation Reprocesses Traumatic Memories: The Neuroscience Behind EMDR

Stop Wasting Time on Surface Arguments: Try These 7 EFT Techniques for Deeper Connection

How Teen Boys Can Stand Up to Bullies by Setting Healthy Boundaries

How to Overcome Fear When Life Feels Like It's Falling Apart (And Actually Come Out Stronger)

Mental Health During COVID-19

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