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1/1/2026 0 Comments

Part-Time Jobs for Therapists: 10 Things You Should Know Before You Apply (2026 Edition)

Looking for part-time therapy work can feel overwhelming. Trust me, I get it. As someone who's navigated both sides of the hiring equation in mental health, I've seen how the landscape has shifted dramatically: especially post-pandemic. The good news? Part-time opportunities for therapists are more abundant than ever in 2026. The challenging news? There are some crucial things you need to know before you apply that could save you from frustration, financial stress, or career missteps.

Let me walk you through the ten most important considerations I wish every therapist knew before pursuing part-time work.

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12/29/2025 0 Comments

The Letdown After the Big Plan: What Happens When the Excitement is Over

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The post-achievement crash is a tough topic to talk about because it catches us so off-guard. You've just accomplished something meaningful, maybe you graduated, got married, finished a big project, or survived a challenging life transition, and instead of feeling triumphant, you feel... empty. Deflated. Like the air has been let out of your balloon.

As a therapist, I see this pattern constantly in my office. Clients come in confused and sometimes ashamed, wondering what's wrong with them that they can't just enjoy their success. "I should be happy," they tell me. "I worked so hard for this, so why do I feel so low?"
Let me start by saying this: there is nothing wrong with you. What you're experiencing is not only normal but actually shows your nervous system is working exactly as it should.

Your Brain on Achievement: The Neuroscience of Letdown

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12/22/2025 0 Comments

Emotions Series Part 1: What's the Difference Between Feeling and Showing an Emotion?

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Emotions can feel like a mystery, even to those of us who work with them every day. You might notice your heart racing during a difficult conversation, but your face remains completely neutral. Or maybe you've had the experience of someone asking "Are you okay?" when you thought you were hiding your frustration perfectly well. This disconnect between what we feel inside and what others see on the outside is more common than you might think, and it's rooted in fascinating neuroscience.

As a therapist, I see this emotional complexity play out in my office daily. The difference between feeling an emotion and showing an emotion shapes how we connect with others, how we heal, and how we navigate our relationships. That's why I'm excited to start this four-part series exploring the intricate world of emotions and expression.

The Neuroscience Behind Feeling vs. Showing

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12/8/2025 0 Comments

A How-To Guide if Your Loved One Is in the Hospital for Long-Term Care

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Long-term hospitalization is one of those life experiences that nobody prepares you for. As a therapist who has walked alongside families through these challenging seasons, I've witnessed firsthand how overwhelming it can feel when someone you love requires extended medical care. The uncertainty, the disrupted routines, the financial stress, the emotional roller coaster, it's a lot to navigate, and it's completely normal to feel lost.

In my practice, I've learned that families often focus so intensely on the medical aspects of their loved one's care that they forget to tend to their own emotional well-being and the relationship dynamics that inevitably shift during these times. Today, I want to share what I've discovered about supporting both your loved one and yourself through this journey, drawing from attachment theory, trauma-informed care, and the wisdom of caring for the caregiver.

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11/17/2025 0 Comments

Why Do We Cry When We're Not Sad? The Surprising Science Behind Tears of Anger and Joy

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You know that feeling when you're watching your favorite team win the championship and suddenly tears are streaming down your face? Or when you're so frustrated with your boss that you find yourself crying in the bathroom stall? If you've ever wondered why your body seems to have its emotional wires crossed, you're definitely not alone.

It might be natural to think that tears only come from sadness, but that's not always the case. The truth is, crying is way more complicated than we give it credit for, and understanding why can actually help us make sense of our own emotional responses.

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9/15/2025 0 Comments

Your expectations are too high! The difference between a standard and an expectation

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I hear this phrase a lot in my therapy office: "My partner says my expectations are too high!" And honestly? Sometimes they're right. But here's the thing: when someone tells you your expectations are too high, they might actually be pointing to something much deeper than what you think you're asking for.

As a therapist who's spent years working with couples and individuals struggling with relationship dynamics, I've learned that the real issue isn't usually about lowering your standards. It's about understanding the crucial difference between standards and expectations: and how confusing the two can actually damage the very relationships we're trying to protect.

What's Really Going On in Your Brain

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9/8/2025 0 Comments

When Life Gets Messy: How Interdependence Helps Couples Survive Stress, Change, & Crisis

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Crisis is scary. Whether it's a job loss that hits out of nowhere, a health scare that changes everything, or one of those curveball life transitions that leaves you feeling completely off-balance: these moments test every relationship. And if I'm being honest, they don't always bring out the best in us.

But here's what I've learned working with couples: the difference between relationships that crumble under pressure and those that actually grow stronger isn't about avoiding stress. It's about how partners choose to face it together.

That's where interdependence becomes your secret weapon.

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7/14/2025 0 Comments

How to Get Going When You Think 'I Don't Know What I Want, But I Know It's Not This'

That restless feeling in your chest? The one that shows up Sunday evenings or during your commute? The quiet voice that whispers "this isn't it" while you're sitting in another meeting or going through the motions of your daily routine? You're not alone in feeling this way, and more importantly, you're not stuck forever.

Feeling dissatisfied with your current path while remaining uncertain about what comes next is one of the most common struggles I see in my practice. The good news is that this awareness: knowing something isn't right for you: is actually the starting point for meaningful change. You don't need perfect clarity to begin moving forward.

Start Where You Are: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Want

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4/7/2025 0 Comments

Humor Builds Resilience: How Jokes Can Make You Stronger

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Life has a way of throwing curveballs when you least expect them. Your car breaks down the day before a big presentation, your teenager decides to have a meltdown at the grocery store, or you spill coffee all over your laptop during an important video call. In moments like these, you have two choices: you can let the stress consume you, or you can find a way to laugh about it.

I know what you might be thinking, "Really? Laughter is supposed to help me handle stress?" But here's the thing: humor isn't just about feeling good in the moment. It's actually one of the most powerful tools we have for building genuine resilience. And I'm not just talking about putting on a brave face or pretending everything's fine. I'm talking about fundamentally changing how your brain and body respond to challenges.

The Science Behind Your Smile

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1/26/2025 0 Comments

Unwinding After School: How Teens Can Recharge and Still Meet Family Obligations

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Let's be real: coming home from school feeling mentally drained while your parents immediately start talking about homework, chores, and "how was your day?" can feel overwhelming. You need time to decompress, but you also don't want to deal with family drama about not pulling your weight around the house.

The good news? You can totally have both. It's all about finding that sweet spot between taking care of yourself and keeping the peace at home.

Why Your Brain Actually Needs a Break (And It's Not Just Being Lazy)

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1/18/2025 0 Comments

How Teen Girls Can Stand Up to Bullies by Setting Healthy Boundaries

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Dealing with bullies is honestly one of the hardest parts of being a teen girl. Whether it's mean girls spreading rumors, someone making nasty comments about your appearance, or dealing with exclusion and social manipulation, bullying can feel overwhelming and scary. But here's the thing - you have way more power than you think to protect yourself and create healthier relationships through something called boundaries.

Think of boundaries like invisible shields that protect your energy, emotions, and self-worth. They're not walls that keep everyone out - they're more like gates that let the right people in while keeping toxic behavior where it belongs: far away from you.

Why Confidence Is Your Secret Weapon

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12/10/2024 0 Comments

How Teen Boys Can Stand Up to Bullies by Setting Healthy Boundaries

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Bullying is a tough reality that way too many teen boys face. Whether it's happening in hallways, locker rooms, or online, dealing with bullies can feel overwhelming and confusing. But here's the thing – you have more power than you might realize.

Standing up to bullies isn't about getting into fights or being the toughest guy around. It's actually about something much smarter: setting healthy boundaries. And trust me, learning this skill now will serve you well for the rest of your life.

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11/20/2023 0 Comments

Setting Healthy Boundaries with Toxic Family Members During the Holidays

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Setting boundaries with toxic family members during the holidays is one of the most emotionally challenging situations many of us face each year. The pressure to "keep the peace" or maintain family traditions can make it feel impossible to protect your mental health while still showing up for the people you love.

As someone who's worked with countless clients navigating these exact situations, I want you to know that prioritizing your wellbeing isn't selfish, it's necessary. You can love your family and still recognize when certain relationships require clear limits to keep you emotionally safe.

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11/4/2023 0 Comments

How to Leave Work Stress at the Office (So It Doesn't Mess with Family Time)

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We've all been there. You walk through the front door after a long day, and before you can even say hello to your family, your mind is still spinning with deadlines, difficult conversations, and tomorrow's to-do list. Your partner asks how your day was, and instead of connecting, you find yourself venting about workplace drama or stressing about projects that aren't even due until next week.

If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Work stress bleeding into family time is one of the most common challenges I see in my practice. The good news? With some intentional strategies, you can create real boundaries between your work life and home life.

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9/20/2023 0 Comments

How to Overcome Fear When Life Feels Like It's Falling Apart (And Actually Come Out Stronger)

When everything in your life feels like it's crumbling, fear becomes this overwhelming presence that seems to take over everything. I get it – that feeling when you wake up with your heart racing, when every decision feels impossible, when you're not even sure which way is up anymore.

Here's what I want you to know: this scary, falling-apart feeling? It's actually information. And more importantly, it can become the foundation for building something stronger than what you had before.

Your Fear Is Trying to Protect You (But It's Overreacting)

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8/18/2023 0 Comments

Multiple Emotions all at Once!

By Lauren Heinrich

Change is a part of life. Sometimes it feels good, like getting a promotion. Sometimes it hurts, like having to end a relationship. We tend to categorize our transitions as “good” or “bad” and expect the emotions we feel to match. It can really be confusing if our feelings don’t match what we expect.

Let’s take starting a family as an example. Having your first child is supposed to be a magical, joyous experience. What are new parents supposed to do if they feel mixed emotions about having a child? It doesn’t feel right to admit to being upset that they won’t have the same amount of freedom as they did before their first kid. Or let’s consider the mixed feelings that might come with taking a promotion at work. Who wouldn’t be excited about a pay raise? No one wants to admit they feel anxious about the new responsibilities, or how their relationships with their old coworkers will change.

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3/14/2023 0 Comments

Helping our Children Handle Stress & Anxiety

by Jessica Darling Wilkerson, LMFT

Anxiety in children can often take on the characteristics of other disorders and can be “misdiagnosed” by the people in the child’s life: parents, family members, teachers, etc. This is because children don’t have the ability to conceptualize and articulate what’s going on intrapsychically for themselves. A child identifies, “I don’t feel good.” They don’t identify the sense of foreboding, or feeling of “waiting for the other shoe to drop.” They can’t figure out why they feel this way, but they want the feeling to stop and they’ll do anything to make that happen.

To stop the anxiety they might refuse to participate in an activity. They could seem keyed-up or restless. They might isolate themselves and fight their parent tooth and nail to keep from engaging in whatever the parent wants them to do (go to school, do homework, get dressed, leave the house, etc). They might create little rituals that seem like OCD.

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1/9/2023 0 Comments

Hunger, Nutrition, and Mental Health

by Jennifer Barzey, LCSW

Despite having studied nutrition and having developed an understanding of the impact that food can have on our physical and mental health, I still love chocolate. After a stressful experience or difficult day, I still sometimes find myself more enticed by chips or sweets. There are many reasons for this. I grew up associating food with both a way to feel better when sad and a way to celebrate when happy. Turning down food prepared for me was rude and having more was seen as a compliment to the chef. When I didn’t yet have the skills needed to cope with my feelings, food was there.

Our relationship with food can be quite complicated!

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1/2/2023 0 Comments

Cutting, burning, self harm... what is it all about?

by Lauren Heinrich, AMFT

Cutting is a sign of anxiety, not just thoughts of suicide.

Self-harm is a scary topic. It’s not a common point of conversation, and is often misunderstood.
It might be natural to think that a person hurting themselves in such an extreme way must be
contemplating suicide, but that is not always the case. It is hard to think that a person can be in
so much emotional pain that they want to harm themselves, but it happens more often than we
think.

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12/5/2022 0 Comments

Boost Your Confidence in One Easy Mindshift

By Dan Katz, LCSW

So, what are you going to do............
Get up and get some exercise, or grab the remote and head for the couch?

We've all asked ourselves this question lots of times. If you're one of the people that usually gets up and gets going, that's great for your physical health, as well as for your mental health. If you're one of the people that too often chooses the couch, I've got some interesting information for you.

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Part-Time Jobs for Therapists: 10 Things You Should Know Before You Apply (2026 Edition)

The Letdown After the Big Plan: What Happens When the Excitement is Over

Emotions Series Part 1: What's the Difference Between Feeling and Showing an Emotion?

A How-To Guide if Your Loved One Is in the Hospital for Long-Term Care

Why Do We Cry When We're Not Sad? The Surprising Science Behind Tears of Anger and Joy

Your expectations are too high! The difference between a standard and an expectation

When Life Gets Messy: How Interdependence Helps Couples Survive Stress, Change, & Crisis

How to Get Going When You Think 'I Don't Know What I Want, But I Know It's Not This'

Humor Builds Resilience: How Jokes Can Make You Stronger

Unwinding After School: How Teens Can Recharge and Still Meet Family Obligations

How Teen Girls Can Stand Up to Bullies by Setting Healthy Boundaries

How Teen Boys Can Stand Up to Bullies by Setting Healthy Boundaries

Setting Healthy Boundaries with Toxic Family Members During the Holidays

How to Leave Work Stress at the Office (So It Doesn't Mess with Family Time)

How to Overcome Fear When Life Feels Like It's Falling Apart (And Actually Come Out Stronger)

Multiple Emotions all at Once!

Helping our Children Handle Stress & Anxiety

Hunger, Nutrition, and Mental Health

Cutting, burning, self harm... what is it all about?

Boost Your Confidence in One Easy Mindshift

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