By Joe Acciaioli, LCSW
While it may seem normal to dwell on things that are challenging, this, as the Buddhists say, is adding suffering to our pain. There is the initial emotional pain of your spouse getting sick, and then there is the excessive worry that you add–thereby creating suffering for yourself. So try this: “I am willing to be with this thought–even though I don’t like it. I’m willing to open up to it, rather than push it away. I’m willing to explore this bad thought by noticing how it’s showing up in my body. Where is the tension, the tightness? I will simply notice–not judge–and allow it to be present. Hello, thought! I may even send some deep, healing breaths to fill the space where the discomfort is. And now I notice that the thought has settled down a bit, and the physical tension has lifted.” None of this, of course, has healed your spouse’s illness, but these mindful moves will help you stay in a calm mind and body. With practice, this builds good “habit of mind.” And that is important, so that you can spend less time and energy in a state of worry, and more time moving forward on things that matter to you. So keep practicing nonjudgment with the “bad” stuff. It really does work!
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VISION: Creating a new kind of therapy experience in the Chico area in which therapists have smaller caseloads, giving them the flexibility to spend more time with clients as needed - longer sessions, phone calls, client centered advocacy. Creating a space in our community where clients can go between sessions just to sit, linger, and re-center themselves when they're having difficult days. A place to belong while they heal their hearts and relationships. A therapy office that embodies the unconditional love of Christ no matter what a person's gender identity, romantic disposition, or previous life hardships, experiences, or actions might have been. To be a safe place.
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