5/9/2021 0 Comments Words Have Powerby Jessica Wilkerson, LMFT Have you ever found yourself mumbling under your breath, “get it together, man! What’s wrong with you?” or “Of course you didn’t get that good thing, your life stinks.” It’s human nature to try to use an inner voice to encourage ourselves to do better or to coach ourselves not to experience upset. Somewhere along the way some of us learned that by admonishing ourselves it softens the blow of disappointment, frustration, or feelings of powerlessness. There’s a false sense of empowerment that comes from negative or chastising inner dialogue, and it feels like those statements keep us on our feet and alert. Without the inner coach saying, “There’s no such thing as second place!” or “You already know you’re unlovable, don’t bother putting yourself out there.” We can feel like we would accidentally make fools of ourselves. Our perception is that the way we are talking to ourselves is keeping us safe. It’s not. It’s absolutely not keeping us safe. It’s keeping us from thriving and from flourishing. It’s keeping us from following our dreams. It’s not a voice of reason, but it’s a voice of discouragement masking as a well-meaning friend. Instead, acknowledging what’s actually going on for you. “This is really disappointing” and “I don’t think this person sees who I really am, and that hurts and frustrates me. I feel powerless.” Allowing those feelings and comments to exist also allows them to flow out and away. Then, you have the mental space to make a plan of action and to see other true statements. “I’ve been hurt in the past, but this person is wholly different from the other people I’ve loved and lost.” “I didn’t get first place this time, but I’m going to switch up my game plan so I improve and next time it’ll be a homerun!” The inner voice is an accumulation of people in our lives that we noticed: parents, teachers, friends, coaches, tv personalities. It comes from so many sources that it’s not always important to figure out why we talk like this, but to start by noticing that we do it and then working toward a shift. If you need help shifting the way you talk to yourself so you can continue living your life, but with one more person in your court (you) then please feel free to reach out! You can call for an appointment at (530) 809-1702. All therapists are providing Telehealth for any clients physically located in California and in-person sessions at the office in Chico, CA.
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Inspired Life Counseling is owned and directed by Jessica Wilkerson, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #104464.
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Inspired Life Counseling is owned and directed by Jessica Wilkerson, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #104464.
Office Hours: By Appointment Contact us!
MISSION: To provide a tranquil and healing space in which people in our community can find calmness internally through the relaxing atmosphere along with respectful and engaging therapy conversations. To contribute to happier and more secure families by helping individuals, couples, and teens heal within and thereby creating different ways of engaging with themselves, the world, and those they love.
VISION: Creating a new kind of therapy experience in the Chico area in which therapists have smaller caseloads, giving them the flexibility to spend more time with clients as needed - longer sessions, phone calls, client centered advocacy. Creating a space in our community where clients can go between sessions just to sit, linger, and re-center themselves when they're having difficult days. A place to belong while they heal their hearts and relationships. A therapy office that embodies the unconditional love of Christ no matter what a person's gender identity, romantic disposition, or previous life hardships, experiences, or actions might have been. To be a safe place.
VISION: Creating a new kind of therapy experience in the Chico area in which therapists have smaller caseloads, giving them the flexibility to spend more time with clients as needed - longer sessions, phone calls, client centered advocacy. Creating a space in our community where clients can go between sessions just to sit, linger, and re-center themselves when they're having difficult days. A place to belong while they heal their hearts and relationships. A therapy office that embodies the unconditional love of Christ no matter what a person's gender identity, romantic disposition, or previous life hardships, experiences, or actions might have been. To be a safe place.
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